Yes? or No?
Yes? or No? Humans constantly have the opportunity to make choices, to say “yes” to this and “no” to that. Have you noticed that you tend to respond in one way more often than the other? That answer can be thought of as your “default answer.” It’s likely you’re more inclined to say “yes” more […]
Love Wins Every Time
Love Wins Every Time When I was talking with a client the other day, she told me she was making a video for an online class and asked me to watch her run through the version of it as it appeared in her mind at that moment. The video was an assignment intended to capture […]
Laughing at Yourself
Laughing at Yourself I have something for you. It’s something that can make your life feel easier, that can make your load feel lighter, and that can give you a feeling of resilience, even when you’re exhausted or overwhelmed. Now I have to rephrase the first thing I said to you, which was, “I have […]
Really Seeing One Another
Really Seeing One Another When we encounter someone for the first time, what do we see? To know that, it’s helpful to understand what it is we’re looking for when we look at them. I had an encounter recently that only lasted a fraction of a second. It’s stayed with me because in that brief […]
Which Voice Shall I Listen To?
Which Voice Shall I Listen To? Sluggish, like a slug. That’s how I seem to be feeling these mornings after having had knee surgery. At the same time, I’m asking myself, “why can’t I get anything done, I can hear another voice, a quieter one, saying, “That only means your day is unfolding differently than […]
Self-Consciousness and Self-Confidence Are Like Two Sides of a Coin
Self-Consciousness and Self-Confidence Are Like Two Sides of a Coin I’d like you to imagine you have a coin in your hand. It’s like a regular coin, with two sides, but on this coin, one side represents self-confidence, and the other side represents self-consciousness. Just like a real coin, when you’re looking at one side, […]
Want a Simpler Life?
Want a Simpler Life? What does it take to live the simple life? More stuff? More rituals of various kinds? More complications in our lives? One of the things modern, sophisticated people are especially good at is making most aspects of our lives much more complicated than they really are or need to be. So […]
No Diagnosis Big Enough
No Diagnosis Big Enough Like me, you may have noticed how attached we can become to our psychological diagnosis. They become something we cling to and appear to provide a strange form of reassurance: “Ah, now I understand the nature of my brokenness.” Diagnoses are conceptual boxes that never fit everything we are. To try […]