Not Self-Help, Self-Recognition
I dislike the term, “self-help.” The best help we can give ourselves is to recognize who we really are, underneath all the ideas we have about ourselves. Self-help material tends to reinforce the ideas we have about our identities, because they take the identities we create for ourselves and treat them as though they’re our real identities, as though they’re who we really are.
What Do Mistakes Mean?
“Uh oh! I made a mistake.” When you have this realization, what tends to be your next thought? The difficulty we have with mistakes is largely a function of what we tell ourselves those mistakes mean. If for example, your thinking tells you your well-being has gone missing because you made a mistake, the experience of making a mistake can lead you to believe something is really wrong. But is it?
How to Feel Young Regardless of Your Age
At 73, it’s almost impossible not to feel the effects of an aging body. Joints break down, old injuries have a way of reminding you they’re still there, and long-term illnesses can seem to bleed away energy and enthusiasm for life. Yet, as I’ve written before, I’m living the everyday miracle of feeling as young as I did when I was a teenager.