Making Decisions You Won’t Ever Regret
I’ve never bothered to try to tally up the bad decisions I’ve made in my life, but like every other human, there have been plenty of them.
I’ve noticed the decisions I regret all have a common thread running through them; they were all made from what I now see as fear. And any decision I make from fear will be a decision that sooner or later, I’ll come to regret. If you’re wondering about how to determine whether or not a decision is fear-based, it’s easy to tell.
Decisions made from fear feel like hell, because they tend to be driven by a life-and-death sense of desperation. And that feeling is all the indication you’ll ever need; it tells you in no uncertain terms that you are not in a position to make a good decision.
That’s because fear, like anger, makes you dumber, not smarter.
It’s an indication that you’d do well to wait until your thinking settles down, because your sense of desperation is guaranteed to settle down with it. It will happen on its own; all you have to do is to let it happen.That desperation is simply a sign that you’ve lost perspective. It doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong; it just means it’s probably not the right time to make a decision.
If there’s no legitimate reason to make the decision immediately, wait, just wait. You’ll know when the time is right, because the decision will almost seem to make itself, and the feeling accompanying it will be expansive.
A decision made from fear will always feel contraction. What’s the alternative to decisions made from fear? A settled mind is a mind that allows you access to the full spectrum of your intelligence. When the full spectrum of your intelligence is available to you, you’ll naturally gravitate to decisions made from love. This is something that’s available to every human being. And all you have to do is to let your thinking slow down, which it was made to do.I can honestly say this: I’ve never made a love-based decision that I later regretted.
Some of those decisions may have meant sacrificing something that seemed important to me, but the beauty of full-spectrum intelligence is that it naturally puts love in the driver’s seat. And when love is driving, your decisions will be absolutely dependable.
A decision made from love feels good in the same way that a fear-based decision feels horrible.
I don’t need any more incentive than that, so all I have to do is to notice the feeling that accompanies the decision.
Does it feel good? Great trust it! Does it feel bad? It’s more than likely not the right decision.
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